Church for Men is an organization dedicated to helping the local church reach more men and boys. We do this through:

We are also developing new men’s ministry regimes in our idea lab.

At Church for Men, our focus is not male dominance, but male resurgence.

Our approach is different

ManThumbsUpWant to start a successful men’s ministry program in your church? You’ve come to the wrong place. Our mission is NOT helping churches start a men’s ministry. There are plenty of fine organizations that do that.

At Church for Men, we work the other angle. We help churches do what they’re already doing, in a way that connects with men.

Here’s the paradox: men’s ministry programs can be very effective – but only a small percentage of men participate. Typically less than 20% of the men in a typical church ever come to a men’s meeting. Young men usually ignore men’s ministry altogether.

If you really want to impact men and boys, you’ve got to do it in churchIn youth group. In Sunday school.

That’s where we come in. We help churches restore a healthy masculine spirit in everything they do — worship, teaching, programming, facilities, and governance. So from the moment a man walks into church he senses that Christianity is something for him — not just something for his wife and kids.

To clarify: we are not anti-men’s ministry. We recommend that every church sponsor a men’s ministry program. And it works really well – for the small percentage of men that participate.

But what about the majority of men and boys? How do we reach them?

Church for Men helps you strip away the man-made barriers that are keeping men and boys from being swept into the adventure of following Christ.

There’s no program to start. No books to buy. No staff to add. Nothing to put on your already bulging calendar.

Let us help you reach more men, doing what you already do.

How Church for Men started

Church for Men began one Sunday morning when three things came together in David Murrow’s brain:

  1. His Anthropology degree.
  2. His 15 years of experience in the media/advertising business.
  3. A rather dull sermon.

Felt BannerThat particular Sunday David was sitting in church, mind wandering. He was thinking about something he learned in college. Anthropologists classify a culture by studying its rituals, power structure, symbols, language and participants. They call this an enthographic survey.

So, in a moment of boredom or inspiration, Murrow conducted a quick ethnograpic survey of his church — and was surprised to realize that it bore all the marks of a matriarchy. The symbols, language and culture all leaned toward the feminine. Church was a warm, welcoming, nurturing, family oriented place where everyone was made to feel loved and accepted. Competition, achievement and goal-setting were frowned upon.

Moments later, Murrow’s background in media kicked in. Every modern communications channel has a “target audience.” By examining the attendance, participation and volunteer opportunities in his church, Murrow realized that the congregation was unintentionally targeting married women age 30-to-70.

Murrow saw this same gender imbalance in churches of every stripe. Not only were there more women in the pews, the culture of these churches skewed toward feminine ways of thinking and being. Men are from Mars; church culture is from Venus.

This startling observation sent him to the bookstore, where he searched in vain for a title on the subject. Nothing. So he began doing research. Research led to a book. A book led to a ministry.

What about God?

AngryShortManHe was a small man, sitting in the third row, arms folded. He listened attentively as I gave my presentation of “Why Men Hate Going to Church.” When I asked for questions from the audience, his hand was the first one up.

“David, I appreciate what Church for Men is trying to do,” he said, with a slight tremor in his voice. “We definitely need more men and boys in church. But I think you’re going about it all wrong. You’ve spent the last 40 minutes telling us to sing manlier songs and to take the fresh flowers off the altar, but is that really the key to bringing men to Christ?” He paused for just a moment, and before I could answer he continued. “When I was saved I didn’t care about the quilted banners on the walls, I was undone by the love of God. We need prayer. We need biblical preaching. We need the Spirit. All this stuff about stopping the hugs and manning up the music doesn’t really matter.”

On the one hand, I completely agreed with this man. If the Spirit of God is moving in a church, nothing else matters. Truth is, if God is moving then it wouldn’t matter if a church was decorated with Hello Kitty posters; men would be drawn to Christ.

I also agree that if a church wants to grow, its spiritual climate is much more important than practical concerns. Prayer, discipleship, teaching, service, humility and love are all more important than paint color.

Yet practical things do matter.

Travel with me to Phoenix, Arizona. It’s June, and it’s 105 degrees outside. First Community Church’s air conditioner goes out on Saturday night. There’s no time to get it fixed before services. The people gather, the Spirit comes and everyone is blessed.

The next week the elders make an announcement: the A/C unit is shot. It’s going to cost several thousand dollars to replace. Rather than divert funds away from missions, the church will continue to meet without air conditioning.

June, July, and August roll past. The temperature inside the sanctuary tops 90 degrees. Congregants sweat profusely during worship. Choir members begin passing out. And by September attendance at First Community is down by 85%.

Why did so many people abandon First Community Church? It had nothing to do with the preaching, praise, prayer or fellowship. Indeed, FCC’s commitment to missions over the comfort of its members is truly impressive.

The problem wasn’t the spiritual climate. The leadership failed to create a practical climate where people could freely worship God without distraction.

Once again, the spiritual is always more important than the practical. But practical things do matter.

Your congregation’s spiritual climate is your responsibility. Church for Men wants to show you how to get the practical things right, so you can become missionaries to the world’s largest unreached people group: men.