Why men have stopped singing in church

  • Worship band in the darkIt happened again yesterday. I attended one of those hip, contemporary churches — and almost no one sang. Worshippers stood obediently as the band rocked out, the smoke machine belched and lights flashed. Lyrics were projected on the screen, but almost no one sang them. A few women were trying, but I saw only one male (other than the worship leader) making the attempt.

    Last month I blogged, “Have Christians Stopped Singing?” I did some research, and learned that congregational singing has ebbed and flowed over the centuries. It reached a high tide when I was a young man – but that tide may be going out again. And that could be bad news for men.

    First, a very quick history of congregational singing.

    Before the Reformation, laypersons were not allowed to sing in church. Sacred music was performed by professionals (priests and cantors), played on complex instruments (pipe organs), and sung in an obscure language (Latin).

    Reformers gave worship back to the people, in the form of congregational singing. They composed simple tunes with lyrics that people could easily memorize. Some of the tunes came out of local taverns.

    A technological advance – the printing press – led to an explosion of congregational singing. The first hymnal was printed in 1532, and soon a few dozen hymns became standards across Christendom. Hymnals slowly grew over the next four centuries. By the mid 20th century every Protestant church had a hymnal of about 1000 songs, 250 of which were regularly sung. In the church of my youth, everyone picked up a hymnal and sang every verse of every song.

    About a decade ago, a new technological advance – the computer controlled projection screen – entered America’s sanctuaries. Suddenly churches could project song lyrics for all to see. Hymnals became obsolete. No longer were Christians limited to 1,000 songs handed down by our elders.

    At first, churches simply projected the songs everyone knew – hymns and a few simple praise songs that had come out of the Jesus Movement. People sang robustly.

    But that began to change about three years ago. Worship leaders brought in new songs each week. They drew from the radio, the Internet, and Worship conferences. Some began composing their own songs, performing them during worship, and selling them on CD after church.

    Years ago, worship leaders used to prepare their flocks when introducing a new song. “We’re going to do a new song for you now. We’ll go through it twice, and then we invite you to join in.”

    That kind of coaching is rare today. Songs get switched out so frequently today that it’s impossible to learn them. People can’t sing songs they’ve never heard. And with no musical notes to follow, how is a person supposed to pick up the tune?

    And so the church has returned to the 14th century. Worshippers stand mute as professional-caliber musicians play complex instruments, and sing in an obscure language. Martin Luther is turning over in his grave.

    What does this mean for men? On the positive side, men no longer feel pressure to sing in church. Men who are poor readers or poor singers no longer have to fumble through hymnals, sing archaic lyrics or read a musical staff.

    But the negatives are huge. Men are doers, and singing was one of the things we used to do together in church. It was a chance to participate. Now, with congregational singing going away, and communion no longer a weekly ordinance, there’s only one avenue left for men to participate in the service – the offering. Is this really the message we want to send to men? Sit there, be quiet, and enjoy the show. And don’t forget to give us money.

    There’s nothing wrong with professionalism and quality in church music.The problem isn’t the rock band, or the lights, or the smoke machine. The key here is familiarity. When that super-hip band performed a hymn, the crowd responded. People sang. Even the men.

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    February 7th, 2011 | David Murrow | 116 Comments | Tags: , , , , ,

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David Murrow

David Murrow is the director of Church for Men, an organization that helps congregations reach more men and boys. In his day job, David works as a television producer and writer. He's the author of three books. He lives in Alaska with his wife, three children, two grandchildren and a dachshund named Pepper.

  • http://www.churchformen.com David Murrow

    So because I don’t know the words or tune, I’m being prideful? My heart’s not in the right place? I don’t follow your logic Chris.

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  • http://bernardshuford.tumblr.com Bernard Shuford

    I ain’t cool with that “intimate relationship” stuff with Jesus. I do that with my wife. This “Saviour / sinner” relationship shouldn’t remind me of sex in any way. That kills my worship vibe really quick. Worship isn’t about kissing and hugging Jesus, or feeling fuzzy and finding our feminine side. Like you say, worship can roar or it may be completely silent. But “intimate” is just the wrong word.

  • http://bernardshuford.tumblr.com Bernard Shuford

    I think they flock partially because they want to be associated with a succesful church that is well known, not some little bitty coffee shop snake handling preacher.

  • Parsifal

    I find this to be the most polarizing issue in the church today. But I think this article really touches on the heart of the matter: many churches today with ‘contemporary’ worship are weekly concerts. A huge number of the songs sung in church today aren’t designed to be sung corporately and the congregation generally sounds like a horrible American Idol audition. Many of the songs are horrendously un-Biblical, or don’t even attempt to be Biblical. I was at a church one time where we were led in ‘worship’ singing ‘The Wind Beneath My Wings!’ The move to excellence in our musical expression of worship is awesome, but how can you expect me to sing “When he rolls up his sleeves, he ain’t puttin’ on the ritz” and take God seriously? Puttin’ on the ritz? Honestly? I need to find a bathroom.

  • http://www.churchformen.com David Murrow

    You’ve made the point well. A lot of the songs we sing in church are not designed for corporate singing. They are what we used to call “solos” or “special music.” The fact that lyrics are projected on the screen doesn’t make them more singable.

  • Glenn

    I attend a mainline church where we still have hymnals with text and music, and a lot of people, men and women, still sing.   When I visit my sister’s church in California, a church that has contemporary music led by a praise band (I think you call it), I don’t sing because there are only words without the music projected on the screen.   I can sight read music, as I suspect a lot of folks can still, so why not make it possible for them to sing along?   Then you would have a core of singers in the congregation that might help the non- readers of musical notes to sing.    Even though going to church each Sunday is important to me, I dread going to my sister’s church where I have to stand and stare at a screen with only text.

    Glenn

  • Glenn

    I attend a mainline church where we still have hymnals with text and music, and a lot of people, men and women, still sing.   When I visit my sister’s church in California, a church that has contemporary music led by a praise band (I think you call it), I don’t sing because there are only words without the music projected on the screen.   I can sight read music, as I suspect a lot of folks can still, so why not make it possible for them to sing along?   Then you would have a core of singers in the congregation that might help the non- readers of musical notes to sing.    Even though going to church each Sunday is important to me, I dread going to my sister’s church where I have to stand and stare at a screen with only text.

    Glenn

  • Reginarose32

    OK, this might be me just venting, but yes, I agree with you. My family and I moved to Northern, Va last October and have been looking for a church since then. We have visited six churches. All of them have had worship bands, some better than others. I have no issues with drums or any other instrument being used to worship God, but really it seems to me it’s just a performance, and I do not feel able to worship in song like I did at the last church I attended. We did not have a worship band at my previous church, but a worship team. We sang out of a hymnal, or did some contemporary music with piano accompaniment, sometimes guitar, and we had special music before the sermon, either with the piano or with a background track. We also had a choir that sang at Easter and Christmas and sometimes on other special occassions. Choirs and special music, in the area I now live in, seem to be extinct. When I first started going to my previous church, it was a bit legalistic. Over the years, the church’s stance on music and other things changed. It had been pretty strict 10 years earlier.  I now have no desire to attend a legalistic church, but it seems when it comes to worship, if I don’t want to have my eardrums blasted out, or listen to people rocking out to songs I am unfamiliar with, (and I know a lot of contemporary songs), then I am going to have to settle for legalism. At least these churches are singing songs I know, with music notes attached to them, without a showy worship band. I’m so frustrated about the whole thing. I have been praying since before we moved here, and being a singer, I am sad, because this was my main ministry. I feel like there is no place for me now to use what God has given me, and if I want to use it, I am going to have to compromise my beliefs in one way or another. Maybe I am being too picky? There are a lot of good songs being written today and they definitely have a place in the church, however, I still have a hymnal that I love to sing from. Is it really too much to ask for balance in worship?  There are so many hymns that have stayed with me since I first put my faith in Christ 25 years ago, and I still draw strength from them. Like you said, “That music had teeth!” I am depressed about this situation, because I am one of those people who believes in attending church faithfully and I get very involved. I really do not like being a “church hopper”.Hopefully we will find a place to attend regularly.

  • Mike

    Besides the “boyfriend Jesus” songs, another irritant is the few people–usually women–who stand up during the singing when the songleader has not told us to stand, and the rest of the sheep then feeling the need to appear spiritual and standing. It’s like the obligatory standing O (ovation), which renders standing O’s meaningless. The same with the obligatory standing; it is rendered meaningless because the people are sheep and they do it because their neighbors are doing it. I just stay seated, but then I feel like an idiot because the people around me are all standing!

  • Mike

    It’s just that it’s easier for me to truly worship when I like the musical style. Can you truly worship to the Resurrection Band, for example? Maybe, but I’ll bet other musical styles would give you trouble like, say, that of the Happy Goodmans, or perhaps Shirley Caesar.

    We all have our own preferences, and they are, by definition, selfish, but without the negative connotations. I prefer manly music with some meat instead of the usual milk and mantras.

  • Sarah-Kate*

    I’ve been reading all your comments for months…..  If Paul and Silas can worship in a dark damp yucky prison cell with strangers, no music, and bad acoustics– and still move heaven and earth– y’all should worship no matter what congregation you’re with.

  • http://www.churchformen.com David Murrow

    Perhaps if the church were more like a damp, yucky prison instead of a rock concert hall with free coffee, men would worship more robustly. Food for though.

  • d_sanchez9@yahoo.com

    I feel there is a real hunger for the way things use to be. Even as a child, we sang hymns during praise and worship. Everyone knew the songs. But now a days, it seems the church has somewhat “conformed to the things if this world” by sometimes singing styles of songs similar to secular music. A lot of these contemporary songs are drowning out the traditional hymnals because people feel we need to stay with the times. These very changes are reasons why my grandmother doesn’t attend church anymore. I mean, if the church wants to continually add new songs for the youth, that’s fine. Maybe we can have both. One for the older, more traditional style and another for the youth. But when you notice an elderly woman cover her ears because the drummer is dramatically over the top when playing contemporary songs, it’s something to consider. Just saying.

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