We follow the same script as Sunday morning – sing songs and listen to a speaker – only we do a lot more of it. Why give up your entire weekend and pay $125 when you can just go to church on Sunday and get the same experience for free?
Unlike previous generations, humor, not music, is young men’s No. 1 form of self-expression.
The perpetrators of these evil acts have not just damaged the lives of their victims – they have cast a dark shadow of suspicion over men who want to spend time with boys.
Young men are doing 180s – on their skateboards, and in their spiritual lives.
In September 2011 I released a revised version of my first book, Why Men Hate Going to Church. I boiled down some of the book’s main recommendations into a checklist. FIFTY WAYS TO MAKE YOUR CHURCH MORE APPEALING TO MEN: Front door experience: Maintain your buildings and grounds Put men in the parking lot to…
Christian men are often slammed for getting excited about sports, but not about church. Is it fair to blame men?
Reform Jewish Synagogues are losing their young men, so says reporter Debra Nussbaum-Cohen in an article in the New York Times. The most liberal wing of Judaism is in the same sinking boat as many liberal Christian denominations. Not only are they studying the problem, but a group of courageous Jews is taking a step…
Jose came from a broken family and joined [a gang] when he was 13. He was arrested three times, the last time at age 19 for killing a homeless man with other gang members and stealing 26 dollars he was carrying.
Jose recently left prison and is trying to reform his life by working for Homeboy Industries, a Los Angeles group that provides jobs to former convicts. “I want to change, I want to change,” he says. Then he goes silent. Without his gang Jose seems lost.
Why is Jose so drawn to his gang? “A gang gives you something that nothing in the world or no amount of money can give you: a family, an acceptance,” he said.
The church can learn a lot from gangs. Men join gangs for one reason: they want a father figure. Many troubled men grew up without strong male role models. But these men do not turn to church because the congregations they’ve attended are predominantly female, and the spirit of the place feels so warm, nurturing and gentle. Men need a masculine path to Christ. Young men crave a wilder, more demanding faith, and don’t mind the spur of discipline when it’s administered in love.